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An Interfaith 2 States Story | Fusion Wedding

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“Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other bound by the courage to grow through struggle into bliss.”

I think this wonderful quote is made for our Real Couple Sayantani Nath & Jose Tom only, who despite facing many ups and downs finally became One. Love Always Wins!! Yeah, it’s right. Here is the beautiful love story of the couple along with their wedding pictures.

How They Met:

Jose and I (both of us are software engineers by profession), we met for the first time formally through one of our mutual friends in 2015 while we were working together at Citibank Chennai, even though we were working closely between the teams. So that day I was mainly called by my friend to help both him & Jose choose a good handbag for one of their friend’s birthday. Slowly & steadily, we started to talk to each casually as friends in office as well as through WhatsApp. We had a lot of mutual friends in office and they had been playing a key role in organizing many weekend parties and hangouts so both of us started talking to each other more often both inside and outside.

So there was a day when only 3 of us ( Jose, me and a friend of ours) finally ended up going to a pub (because all others friends bailed out on that particular day), on the way back to home, he asked me ‘ Can I kiss you?’ and I still remember how shocked or rather perplexed I was because we were not even technically dating that time and I couldn’t digest it at all, anyways that night, I was safely dropped at home by him ( no the kiss didn’t happen). The next day morning, I woke up with a barrage of sorry messages from him for his last night’s question, I forgave him after a few days. So days passed and we both started talking more & more often than usual, personally, I used to like talking to him because he sounded really smart and intelligent and I really had a thing for those guys.

I actually started falling for him in days to come (I’m a really sensitive person at heart) and frankly speaking I thought he had the same feelings too but we never did express to each other. There was a time when my best friends were leaving from Chennai and I literally had no place to stay, he helped me so much getting a place which is really hard in Chennai when you are a single bachelor. Days passed, we actually started officially dating around in the last week of September 2015.

Then There was a time later when I really wanted to know how are we taking this forward, to which initially I had very vague plain answers from him, and that kinda really depressed me. We both loved each other a lot but for some reason, he didn’t know how to take it forward or bring it up to his parents since we both belonged to entirely different communities/religions. The time between December 2016 – June 2017 would have been the hardest phase of our love story. There were commitment issues, fights, and arguments, all related to a single thing – are we going to get married or it’s just another casual relationship. Because I really don’t have a thing for the latter. It took some time for him to really get the real picture and understanding that he actually could not live without me and that to do justice, he has to finally bring it up to his parents.

I had already informed about him to my parents, they were initially a bit hesitant because of the religious differences but later they were gone, I guess both my parents were ok and the next was to convince him to reveal to his parents.

Jan 2017- he left his job at Citi and had joined in a logistics startup as one of the founders with 2 of his friends. He says – The struggle through the start-up days, financial issues, big mental support from me which he needed badly during that time – all these made him feel a lot more intensely towards me and that was the turning point in his decision about me. That he really can’t survive without me and my support and he felt no one but I was the only one standing always beside him during those hardship days.

March 2018- during the Easter vacations and he had finally revealed about me to his parents.

According to him, they had been guessing about me for a long time especially his dad but they weren’t sure if he was really serious.

June 2018 – both our parents met up at Pondicherry as part of an official meet up.

That day we both understood how culturally /religious different people when they come together, can stay happy together between the differences.

We fixed on our engagement date on 9th February 2019.

I would say there were some internal problems here and there, not because our parents had differences, mostly it’s the society who creates issues regarding a lot of agendas/rituals.

Yes, We too had religious and language issues, our rituals didn’t match so all these problems were expected initially and we had made an understanding amongst ourselves that it’s bound to happen but we have to happy despite these differences.

But I would say both of our parents were really supportive in general from the time we had met with each other- you need not necessarily find this support in all the love stories.

Engagement Day:

Haldi Day:

Wedding Planning:

The wedding date was fixed on the engagement date exactly 9 months from 9th February 2019 on 9th November 2019. We wanted to keep the same dates and the same differences in months.

Regarding Wedding –

We decided Kochi to be our wedding venue because we wanted our wedding to be hosted with the backwater as the backdrop. We chose Taj Malabar, Cochin as the chosen venue.

We wanted both the weddings ( Hindu & Christian) to be on the same day as were particular about keeping a single wedding date.

For the Christian wedding, we initially had faced some trouble in getting permission to do the wedding at church as the Church wedding laws require baptism and we both wanted that no one should convert for the other rather allow each of us to practice our own religion throughout.

Jose’s father’s best friend who is also a senior priest agreed to solemnize our wedding.

But getting a church to agree to this disparity was a bit difficult I would say, in the end, we had only the options of two churches, who agreed to our wedding ( disparity of cult) and can’t imagine how happy we both were on that day when we got the news.

Wedding planning – I always had a knack for designs and planning ever be it home decor or doing the wedding planning, how I want it etc etc.

The planning was helped further by the Lumiere events team and they have done a really commendable job in organizing every nook and corner details of the whole wedding and I appreciate their work ethics in that regard.